Q & A ABOUT MEDIATION

Center for Directed Mediation

A Concierge Practice


IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A “FRIENDLY” DIVORCE?

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Absolutely. Mediation is a nonadversarial process that may be the answer for you if, as a couple, you are both committed to certain objectives, for example:

  • Acting amicably and respectfully, even though there may be disagreements along the way
  • Proceeding on the same timetable
  • Making paramount your children’s best interests
  • Providing transparency about your financial situation
  • Ensuring that you maximize confidentiality about your private issues

WHAT TYPES OF DIVORCE CASES CAN BE MEDIATED?

Virtually all of them, including cases with child custody and parenting related issues, high net worth cases with complex financial arrangements, or cases with more modest financial circumstances.

WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ELEMENT OF A SUCCESSFUL MEDIATION?

Trust. In one simple word. Couples get divorced for many reasons but there are certain couples, who despite the circumstances, still trust each other to arrive at a fair and legally binding resolution of their case.

IF WE MEDIATE CAN WE GET DIVORCED DURING DESPITE COVID-19 RESTRICTIONS?

Yes! This is true even though Courts remain closed for most inperson divorce matters and the number of senior judges has been substantially reduced. A successful mediation will lead to a Divorce Agreement where yediou never need to step foot in the Courtroom. You can get divorced as soon as you have a Divorce Agreement.

IS MEDIATION TYPICALLY A TIME-SAVING WAY TO GET DIVORCED?

Typically, yes. If couples are committed to doing so, they can move through the process rather quickly, but without forfeiting the diligence that is required for a fair and equitable result.

WILL MEDIATION BE LESS COSTLY THAN LITIGATING A DIVORCE?

Usually. Without the need for formal information gathering or Court intervention, the costsavings can be substantial, and especially so because there is no need to hire attorneys as advocates in this process.

WHAT IS REVIEW COUNSEL?

Once the mediation gets to the point where the mediator drafts a Divorce Agreement, it is advisable for the parties to each hire counsel to review it to make sure it accurately reflects the understanding of the parties and protects their interests.

WHAT DOES “DIRECTED MEDIATION” MEAN?

At Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC, we subscribe to a unique style of mediation that is aimed at getting couples through the divorce process in a quick, efficient, and cost-savings manner. As the largest Family Law firm in Connecticut, our eight highly credentialed lawyers have vast experience with a wide range of divorce and post-divorce cases throughout the state. We know “what the Judge would likely do.” So we get right to it in our mediation sessions. We do not waste time. We set an ambitious but doable schedule for all to follow and we stay on it. We guide couples to a resolution with the backdrop and context of likely outcomes based on years of experience.

WHAT IS A CONCIERGE PRACTICE?

At Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC, we hold the hands of couples who are going through the mediation process with us. We set expectations at the beginning. We commit to a rapid response. If needed, we arrange for any necessary collaterals, such as therapists, accountants, financial planners, real estate appraisers, and business valuation experts. We streamline the process so you can concentrate on yourselves and your family during this transitional time. Lastly, we do not disappear when your case is over but rather remain available to assist with establishing support  systems for your new post-divorce life.

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    Jaime was with me every step of the way. She supported me in all of my decisions and provided with names of experts that could help me with other aspects of the divorce such as a certified divorce financial analyst.
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    … More made sure I knew all of my options and the consequences of any of my choices both financially and emotionally. They neither pushed me to go to court nor discouraged me; they did provide the pros and cons.
    They treated me with respect and never talked down to me. They understood the emotional aspects of coping with a contentious divorce. Their experience working with clients similar to my ex-husband was invaluable.
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    Nicole DiGoise represented me in a case where the gap to reach a settlement was pretty wide at the beginning. There is nobody that I can recommend more highly. Nicole is highly accountable, responsive, disciplined, reasonable and compassionate. … More And Nicole knows the law. Among other things, Nicole has run three marathons. She will be with you every step of your journey. She also knows when to engage the partners (in my case Carole Orland) who provided a deep bench of legal expertise and experience I know I couldn't find anyplace else. Nicole is a David who you can put against any Goliath. If I could give Nicole DiGoise and Carole Orland six stars, I would.
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    I switched after being treated horribly by another law firm. I told Carol Orland and Chris DeMatte that I just wanted to be treated as a human being. The level of care that the team treated me with was well beyond my expectations! I … More trusted the team with strategy and they kept the negotiations on a tight time frame that was simply unachievable by others. They were the quintessential professionals, and always one step ahead. I regret not having hired the team in the first place.
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    Eric and Nicole were terrific to work with, understood the issues, and got us to a conclusion. What more can you ask for?!!!
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  • Damon Rein ★★★★★
    Eric Broder proved to be an excellent attorney. He was incredibly professional, responsive, super-smart, kind and ultimately got me a good, fair divorce settlement. I could not recommend him more highly.
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    Eric Broder and his firm are phenomenal. I refer clients with complicated legal issues involving custody and finances and he is able to thoroughly and thoughtfully work to accomplish clients' goals. I can't recommend him enough. … More His partner, Carole, is also fantastic; she is extremely capable and always prepared.
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    Nicole and Carole were everything I needed them to be during a very difficult time... professional, knowledgeable, compassionate and kind. They guided me through what could have been a confusing process and made me feel comfortable and … More confident each step of the way.
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  • Jennifer Mines ★★★★★
    When I reached out to Broder & Orland, I was still in shock from my situation. Chris DeMattie was a calm and compassionate voice of reason at every turn and he expertly navigated me through a difficult 14 months. He was smart, professional, … More prompt, efficient yet thorough, and always acted with integrity. His advice was measured, fair, creative when needed, and also realistic. Yet it always felt as though I was interacting with a trusted friend or colleague. I felt heard and validated- no question was too small or unreasonable (even when probably asked multiple times- thank you for the patience!). The financial settlement Chris successfully negotiated for me let me enter the next stage of my life with security, and the peace of mind of having him in my corner throughout the divorce process was priceless.
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    I worked with Eric Broder and Nicole DiGiose on a difficult divorce after mediation failed. Both Eric and Nicole gave me great advice and helped me settle the divorce as quickly as possible. Their underlying theme of “do the right thing” … More helped in logically making decisions rather than letting emotional responses continue to make a difficult process more painful for both me and my children. I appreciate their diligence and responsiveness with my issues. I have already recommended them to other friends in the same situation.
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